Opportunistic Mates

In my journey of returning back to college as a middle-aged non-traditional student, my experience has positioned me in an area that is of far more difficult substance than I would like to recognize. Please understand that the subject-matter written about today is coming from a no-holds barred approach to a real-time issue, so don’t blame me for voicing my opinions. CAN WE TALK - REALLY!

The new trend is: going NO-Where young men and ladies are establishing a taste and target market for going somewhere young ladies and/or men to ride out. Unfortunately, men more so than women nowadays are the opportunistic mates, because far more females are opting for more advance college educations.

• Parents of mentally challenged kids are not appropriately warning their kid's partners of those suspected pre-existing conditions:

o e.g. your kid is now in his/her 20s and you have failed as a parent, because you have not had him/her institutionalized for what you have witnessed through your parenting process.
o you as a parent have thrown in the towel, and by doing so have happily passed on your problem to an unsuspecting participant.

• Older guys are engaging in dating activities with young ladies that ages match those associated with what could be their children.

• O. G's (older guys seeking cool points) are working to make them relevant by positioning themselves as mentors in these young men lives to teach mental control concepts (called game).

The sad scenario is that all of these tactics lead the unsuspecting individuals to believe that these relationships are based on love. Facts that I know about LOVE is that:

• Love does not cause you to hurl furniture across a room…
• Love does not cause you to inflict mental or psychological cruelty…
• Love does not cause you to inflict physical cruelty (pain that typically follows mental cruelty).

Those are all signs of mental instability in your mate, and you should remove yourselves from those situations as an impacted individual. It is just a matter of time before someone is reading about you in the obituary; some trying to purchase your car, others trying to see if they can make a connection with grieving family members they know, investors seeking to acquire clients, etc. Make your lives relevant and not just an opportunity for someone else to advance in your demise. Please understand that you are replaceable, however, close family and friends will grieve you as a loss to them for years.

The parents of the child that commits the crime will plead for their child’s life, because they knew their child had an issue all of their life. So, despite their inability to acquire the appropriate help for their child, to save face: the insanity defense may very well prevail.

Although they may feel sorry for your grieving parents and possible friends - It Is What It Is! It would be the moment for redemption for the parent that had no idea how to deal with or raise a troubled child, the O.G. that wants to remain relevant or an unsuspecting mate (or vital statistic) that really had no clue as to who they were dealing with